The #1 Reason Your Wife Says No to Intimacy

By Lesli Doares “Sexual intimacy is a continuing process of discovery.”
Sheri Stritof

You’ve planned the perfect evening. Kids are at your parents. Dinner ordered from her favorite restaurant. You’ve even agreed to watch her favorite rom-com, again. The stars are in alignment and all’s right with the world. Or so you think…..CONTINUE READING

But then your well-orchestrated evening and your hopes for intimacy with your lady love crashes and burns.

You’re confused, disappointed, and more than a bit hurt.

And it’s not the first time this has happened. And you’re trying not to get too frustrated or angry.

Why does this keep happening?

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Does she not find you attractive? Are you a bad lover? Does she not like sex anymore?

As simple as the physical act may be, being in the mood can be a lot more complicated. Especially for women.

It isn’t as easy as excitement, plateau, ***, and resolution. That’s old school thinking about how the sexual response works.

What’s been discovered is much more intricate than that.

The new paradigm is known as thedual control model.There are many systems in the human body that work in partnership, like how the sympathetic and parasympathetic parts of the nervous system are paired.

TheSESis like the accelerator pedal in your car. It gathers information from the environment and sends your body the message —
Turn On!

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TheSISis like the brake pedal. All the information you receive from the environment tells your body to
Turn Off!

So whether either of you are in the mood is a function of the balance between these two systems.

You did all the right things to get her gas pedal activated. But if you don’t know about the other pedal, the one that shuts things down, you will be rolling the dice every time you want to get busy.

So now you have the whole picture, you can plan for the brake as well.

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You’ve got this. But if you don’t, I’ve got you. I’ll soon be sharing information about my upcomingFrom Roommate to RomeoWorkshop happening next month.

Lesli Doares’ mission is to leave no one behind on the relationship battlefield. She is committed to having men be included, respected, and loved as husbands and fathers. She is a Marriage Coach and Communications Consultant in the Raleigh, NC area. You can learn more at

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