Here are some things you should never say to your step-children if you want to maintain a positive and supportive relationship.>>>CONTINUE FULL READING HERE....CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE
1. You’re not my real child
This statement is incredibly hurtful and can make a step-child feel unwanted or rejected. Instead, focus on building your relationship based on mutual respect and affection.
Affirm their value in your life and the family, making them feel included and cherished.
2. Why can’t you be more like [biological sibling]?
Comparisons can breed resentment and insecurity. Each child is unique, with their strengths and weaknesses.
Celebrate their individuality and encourage them to be the best version of themselves without feeling overshadowed by others.
Father and son angry at each other
3. Your mom/dad wouldn’t approve of this
Using the biological parent as a disciplinary tool can create a divide and foster mistrust. It’s important to co-parent effectively and present a united front with your partner.
Discuss rules and boundaries privately with your spouse and approach the child with a consistent and supportive message.
4. I wish things were the way they used to be
Nostalgia for the past can make step-children feel like they are part of an unwelcome change.
Focus on creating new memories and traditions that include everyone in the family. Embrace the present and show that you value the family dynamic as it is now.
Child being scolded
5. I’m not here to replace your mom/dad
While the intention behind this statement may be good, it can remind the child of the loss or change they’ve experienced.
Instead, express your commitment to being there for them and supporting them, without making comparisons to their biological parent.
6. That’s not how we do things in this house
Blending families often means blending traditions and routines. Be flexible and open to incorporating aspects of the child’s previous experiences.
Create a new set of household norms together, allowing everyone to feel a sense of ownership and belonging.>>>CONTINUE FULL READING HERE
